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Conversations with a Toddler #9

Conversations With A Toddler

I was sat on one side of our living room, our Little One was sat on the sofa on the side while playing with some toys

Little One: *playing sounds, talking to self* “…Alone”
Daddy: “Your not alone, I’m right here”
Little One: “You’re far away”
Daddy: “I’m not far away, I’m right here”
Little One: “I can’t hold your hand.”
Wonders towards me.
Daddy: “Am I far away if you cant hold my hand?”
Little One: “Yes”
Grabs my hand pulls me away from the computer to play. 

10 Reasons Why You Want Another Kid

'He's the father of the entire first row.'

As soon as you settle down with someone, there seems to be a weird interest from other people about your attempts to populate the planet. When you finally get around to having a child, its only a matter of time before people start asking about when the next kid is.

Now I’ve already blogged about the many reasons why you may not want another child… but what if you’re thinking about it? (Or you’re trying to encourage someone else to think about more children) Here are 10 reasons why you want another kid.

  1. Practicing for one is fun. (Unless you’re very successful, in which case, bad luck)
  2. The next one may watch Match of the Day with you.
  3. They could entertain and look after each other? This saves money in the long run on child care fee’s.
  4. Keep at it, and you get enough for your very own football team.
  5. The next one may like Star Wars
  6. Multiple kids can parent each other right?
  7. The next one may watch Match of the Day with you, and bring beer.
  8. Want to set up a business? Dont pay for staff! Free child labour!
  9. The next one might switch on the radio, after the other has turned the radio off.
  10. The more children you have, the greater your chances of one child making millions, and not putting you in a crooked retirement home.

Any other reasons?

 

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Staying Safe Online

Back in the day, I used to work on a Technical Support helpdesk for an Internet Service Provider. Yes I was one of those guys you ring when your internet stops working. It was around this time, when I began to care less about how the internet worked, instead I cared more about why people used the internet, and how people behave online.

I guess it was natural then that my interested was caught, when I had email come through about a new campaign from Get Safe Online and their partners. This is a campaign aimed at making people think twice before they act online, and not fall pray to scam emails, texts, or other forms of ‘Social engineering’ where fraudsters manipulate victims into sharing confidential information.

They hope that the following advert will “encourage the public to think twice before they act online”

 

Whilst the advert can possibly seem a fear inducing, I guess its to raise awareness. For example, you cant always believe that you’ve had an email from a friend who has randomly found himself stuck in the Ukraine., and needs money to get home*.

The Get Safe Online website is worth a look for their massive amount of advice ranging from online banking to safeguarding children.  While I’m not likely to send money to someone who says they’re randomly stuck in the Ukraine, resources to help educating our little one as she grows up in a more connected age then myself can only be helpful

David Cameron wants people to attend parenting classes.

Todays news features a speech David Cameron is expected to make tomorrow on parenting, and his want for people to attend parenting classes.

According to The Guardian:

The prime minister will call for a revolution in child rearing this weekend by suggesting that all parents should attend classes on how to discipline their children.

In a move likely to enrage those fearful of an encroaching “nanny state”, David Cameron will say that it should be the norm for parents to receive instruction on how to behave around their offspring.

As part of a speech on the family, Cameron will announce plans for a parenting classes voucher scheme, claiming that all parents need help and that there is too little state-sponsored guidance on offer.

“In the end, getting parenting and the early years right isn’t just about the hardest-to-reach families; it’s about everyone,” Cameron is expected to say on Monday. “We all have to work at it. And if you don’t have a strong support network – if you don’t know other mums or dads – having your first child can be enormously isolating.

“Of course they don’t come with a manual, but is it right that all of us get so little guidance? We’ve made progress. We’ve dramatically expanded the number of health visitors, and that is crucial. But that just deals with one part of parenting – the first few weeks and months. What about later on, when it comes to play, communication, behaviour and discipline? We all need more help with this – the most important job we’ll ever have. So I believe we now need to think about how to make it normal – even aspirational – to attend parenting classes.”

Read the rest over at The Guardian.

A couple of things about this (in no particular order):

I associate classes, with learning how to do something. Is there a right way of being a parent?

David Cameron is expected to say “having your first child can be enormously isolating.” Thank goodness for Sure Start centres already existing, and already helping with this. Oh hang. haven’t a load been closed?  If David Cameron is that keen to start parenting classes, why cant he throw this money into Sure Start and other Children’s centres, and use some of that for parenting classes?

I had the the phrase Nanny State going around my head before its mentioned in the article… didn’t the Conservatives  in the past accuse the (then) Labour government of running a Nanny State? 

I know I’m being negative about this, but I do like the idea of helping people know how to parent if they want it. I can imagine parenting classes being helpful if you’re memories of your own parents aren’t great, or you’re not in a stable position yourself.

It could be the choice of language that I have a problem with? Perhaps “Parenting Support Groups” would be better? Safe places in the community were people can come, with or without kids, and mix and talk with more experienced parents? Possibly have a few “parenting help” videos playing in the corner? A library of books to borrow? Staff who can signpost to other agencies as needed? They can be places of casual learning and support, without the risk of being told the right way of being a parent.

Looking at the above paragraph, I cant help but think that there isn’t much there on top of what other groups (EG Childrens / Sure Start Centres, Nappuccinos, Churches) already do. David Cameron used to speak about a Big Society, why doesn’t he support the people in the community to help parents more, rather then spending the extra money on setting up something massively new?

Besides… Didn’t David Cameron leave his daughter in a pub?

Whats your thoughts on these plans?

10 Things To Remember When Preparing A Wedding

As with any year, this year is going to share its own fair share of challenges and big events. One of the big events for you, may be that either you or someone you know is getting married. If you’re getting married – Congratulations! If you’re helping with someone getting married – this is for you. Collected from a number of “interesting” weddings, here is a list of a few things that need to be remembered when planning a wedding.

  1. You’re not going to get it all right.
  2. People love it when you choose a really obscure wedding service venue, followed by a really obscure venue for your reception.
  3. People love it when they go to a wedding service and hear all new songs! So choose the most obscure songs you know!
  4. Think twice before suggesting a wild dress code, and remember: Naked wedding services are never OK!
  5. Remember to actually hire a church… and get people to play the music – if you want music.
  6. Wedding Cake! Everyone loves Wedding Cake. Get plenty of Wedding Cake!
  7. Don’t worry about remembering about where the wedding rings are. Someone will remember where they end up.
  8. When planning a seating plan, always think about what the most entertaining arrangement would be.
  9. Get the best man to recreate that Best Mans speech from Sherlock.
  10. You’re going to upset at least someone, so make a list of people you know, and ensure you upset at least one person a day until you get married. That way you can make sure you upset everyone in equal measure.

Any more handy hints?

#MySundayPhoto – The Setting Sun in Prague

Due to a series of random events over the last week, I’ve found myself looking over an old memory card, amongst the memories I found this beautiful little moment. Taken by The Vltava river in Prague, many years ago…

Prague

Possibly one of my favourite sunsets. We must go back there one day…

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